The Bachelorette – Episode 3 Review : The Devil and Miss Ashley

So Blogger Buddy Thursdays has finally arrived and I’m so stoked I can barely contain myself! Keshyra over at Enviromommy has graciously accepted my invitation to write a guest post on this day inspired by friends and Friends. So, without further to do on my part (literally) I’ll give the floor to Keshyra. Take it away, girlie! And big thanks to ya for being on board!

When Kyra asked me to be her guest blogger, I was humbled. She is such a fantastic and experienced writer. She’s been writing and blogging for so long, and me, well, it’s only been four months. She is a great friend and she must really have faith in me. After all why would she subject her lovely readers to such a newbie? I will try to live up to her kind expectations. So without further ado, but with a big THANK YOU to Kyra, I will proceed.

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I am a closet Bachelor/Bachelorette fan, it’s one of my guilty pleasures. I don’t talk about it with just anyone. I have to know you like it too, and then I’ll get into it. I’ve been scorned by too many haters before to know that you can’t just say to a group of people, “hey, did anyone catch the Bachelor last night,” because then you might get burned. But once I know you like it too, well then bring on the big conversation. Bring on the squeals, giggles, OMGs and can you believe its. I will gladly get into it with you.

And I’ll start right now. Did you see The Bachelorette this week? I have to say, right off the bat, that I cannot stand Bentley!!! What an evil person. Actually, I think he’s a psychopath. I took psychology in college, and from what I remember he seems to fit the bill. And I am right. I just looked up the traits of a psychopath and he totally fits. Here is the Hare Psychopathy Checklist on Wikipedia:

Factor 1: Personality “Aggressive narcissism”

• Glibness/superficial charm – (he was certainly superficial and fake with his charm)
• Grandiose sense of self-worth – (this fits perfectly, he thinks so highly of himself, it’s ridiculous!)
• Pathological lying – (well, he lied to everyone, every chance he could get)
• Cunning/manipulative – (the way he manipulated Ashley in the good bye scene made me want to throw things at the TV, he was even trying to “turn her on” before he left her, how disgusting!!!)
• Lack of remorse or guilt – (he never showed any guilt for anything he said or did, he’s so gross)
• Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived and egocentric) – (he pretended to show emotion with Ashley but it was all a ruse. All he seemed to care about was his hair and messing with her head)
• Callous/lack of empathy – (he pretended to care about her feelings, but then complained about her crying afterward)
• Failure to accept responsibility for own actions – (he complained about Ashley crying so much in the good bye scene, but couldn’t even see that he was making it worse by all the hugs and snuggles he gave her, and with how long he stayed. If he would have told her he had to leave, gave her a hug, said goodbye and left, there would have been a lot less tears for him to have to sit through)

That was the first half of the checklist, I don’t know about his past or personal life so I can’t comment on the second part called, Factor 2: Case history “Socially deviant lifestyle”. I wouldn’t be surprised if he fit all of those factors as well. But for the first ones, he fits every single point.

I don’t think that there is a single person on any of the previous seasons, that I have disliked more. They have taken the bad guy in this show to a whole new level. There have been liars, cheaters, manipulative people, drunks and all sorts of losers on there before. But none have ever been at this level of deceit. He was purposely trying to hurt her. He was purposely trying to screw up her goal of finding a husband. He was trying to get her to fall in love with him, so that he could hurt her. He took pleasure in it! He even said while she was crying after the roast scene, “So I’m not going to pass up an opportunity to mess with her head.” Who says that? And why? Why would he feel the need to be so cruel? What did she ever do to him? Before this show she was a stranger to him, not some person he had a vendetta against. So why go on the show just to hurt and mess with a perfect stranger? What is the point of that? I can understand if he was just on the show to have fun, and didn’t feel anything for her because there was no connection, but why the sabotage? Why be so malicious? Why say all of those mean things?

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Does he hate women? It sure seems like it. Does he really think any woman will want anything to do with him after this show? After seeing how disrespectful and deceiving he is? And what about his daughter? I know I am going on a lot about this subject, but I am so incensed by this guy. I am a parent too and I would never want my daughter to look up to a man like that. But his daughter has him for a father. That man is her role model. If she ever sees this show, which she might one day, she’ll see that her father thinks it’s okay to lie to woman, and string them along, and manipulate them, and talk crassly about them, and basically be demeaning and belittling towards them. That little girl is going to have some messed up ideas of how a woman should be treated! Like Ashley Spivey, from the last Bachelor season, said in her blog (which I love), “Bentley is the Devil!”

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Anyways enough about him. Lets talk a little about the guys I do like. I really like Ben C (though he talks quite fast sometimes, maybe it’s just nerves), JP (he is adorable and you can tell he really cares about her), Ryan (I loved the way he comforted Ashley after the roast), and William (even though he did mess up). I also like West and Mickey too. I am glad Ashley gave William another chance after his roasting debacle. You could tell he really felt bad for hurting her. Here is a little tip for him, and all men out there. If you hurt the woman you care about and you feel bad about it, say sorry right away. Tell her how deeply sorry you are and let her know how badly you feel about it. Most women will feel so much better after a heartfelt apology, which is much better than running away, leaving and not comforting her.

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I am really looking forward to watching the rest of the season, especially now that Bentley is gone. Now she can focus on the real men in the group, the ones that really care about her, and the ones she actually has a chance of finding true love with. I wish her all the luck in the world, after such a rocky start she deserves some good fortune. I hope she finds true love.